Parenting comes with so many challenges. GG was a happy and easy baby, toddler and child. Speed was for the most part. He did and does have sensory issues which occasionally lead to anger outbursts or meltdowns, but knowing his triggers and how to calm him have helped immensely. Ziggy is a horse of a different color. He’s always had sleep issues. He’s a picky eater and will throw offending food on the floor. He flips out because he’s hot, cold, tired, rested, hungry, full, just because and every reason in between. He is by far, my most challenging child.
Sure, my older two had their own tantrums, and made mistakes, but simply talking to them and telling them that some behaviors were unacceptable worked with them.
This doesn’t work with Ziggy. He spits. Telling him not to just leads to more spitting. We’ve tried talking to him, telling him to use his words, time outs, and I’m ashamed to admit that I’ve yelled at him over it. He just spits more. I know that it’s because he gets a reaction from me, but spitting is such a dirty habit, that I have a really hard time just ignoring it. I’m glad that he has nearly stopped hitting me, I just was not looking for a replacement frustration release from him. He’s quite verbal, so I know that he has the ability to tell me what’s going on in his head. He just chooses to lash out and spit.
I’m really at a loss. I don’t know what to do. Obviously, the spitting needs to stop, I’m just not sure how to go about it. I keep hoping for an overnight outgrowing of this behavior, but that doesn’t seem likely.
I’m sure this is how he feels much of the time…